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Character and Marriage

 

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Introduction

 

The following resources are anecdotes, cultural trends, and reflections on the relationship between character and marriage. They are not Christian reflections or teachings.

 

Conversation Stations

 

These are the images used in artistic physical displays. They are survey questions and conversation starters that are topically and thematically organized. They demonstrate how Jesus is relevant to each topic or theme. You can also just view the images on your device. If you would like, see all our Conversation Stations; below are the ones that relate to the topic of Sex.

Is a Good Friend Hard to Find? (instructions and conversation tree)

Find Your Heart's Desire? (and instructions and theology of desire)

Your Body: Does it Have a Purpose? (and instructions

Rate Your Last Relationship

 
 

Resources on Character and Marriage:

 

Dan Gilbert, The Surprising Science of Happiness (TED talks, Feb 2004)

Barry Schwartz, The Paradox of Choice (TED talks, Jul 2005)

Tracy McMillan, Why You're Not Married (Huffington Post, Feb 13, 2011)

Dr. Neil Clark Warren, On Second Thought, Don't Get Married (Huffington Post, Jul 5, 2011) founder of eHarmony, on what makes an inspiring marriage

Debbi Dickinson, He Lied to Me When We First Met and I Married Him Anyway (Huffington Post, Apr 14, 2012) on why you shouldn't marry the wrong person

Steven Crowder, A Man's Top 5 Reasons to Grow Up and Get Married (Fox News, Jan 26, 2013) an entertaining piece

Shankar Vedantam, Why You Love That Ikea Table, Even If It's Crooked (NPR, Feb 6, 2013) on why laboring leads to loving

Alain de Botton, 12 Rude Revelations About Sex (Psychology Today, Jan 2, 2013)

Dina Nayeri, Divorce from My Best Friend (Salon, Feb 11, 2013)

Joe Amoia, Cheating Signs: 3 Ways to Identify a Cheater (Huffington Post, Apr 18, 2013)

Bradford Wilcox, True Love Need Not Wait (Huffington Post, Apr 19, 2013)

Grace Biskie, Fourteen and Sexually Screwed Up (Prodigal Magazine, Apr 22, 2013)

Brett and Kate McCay, How Delaying Intimacy Can Benefit Your Relationship (July 1, 2013)

Emily Esfahani Smith, There's More to Life Than Being Happy (The Atlantic, Jan 9, 2013)

Michael Carey, Is Polyamory a Choice? (Slate, Oct 16, 2013)

Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, Casual Sex and the Unsatisfied Woman (Huffington Post, Nov 12, 2013)

Ann Voskamp, The Real Truth About 'Boring' Men and the Women Who Live With Them (Huffington Post, Nov 18, 2013)

Christine Gross-Loh, The First Lesson of Marriage 101: There Are No Soul Mates (The Atlantic, Feb 12, 2014)

Kelly M. Flanagan, A Dad's Letter to His Son About the Only Good Reason to Get Married (Huffington Post, Mar 12, 2014)

Leonid Bershidsky, Want a Lasting Relationship? Give Up Sex (Bloomberg, Mar 13, 2014)

Philosopher's Mail, How We End Up Marrying the Wrong People (Philosopher's Mail website)

Emily Esfahani Smith, Masters of Love (The Atlantic, Jun 12, 2014) on science, lasting relationships, kindness and generosity vs. contempt

Lauren Martin, Why Readers, Scientifically, Are the Best People to Fall in Love With (Elite Daily, Jul 9, 2014)

Taryn Hillin, New Study Claims People Who’ve Had More Sexual Partners Report Unhappier Marriages (Huffington Post, Aug 22, 2014)

Steve Fishman, Do Ultra-Orthodox Jews Have Better Sex? (New Yorker Magazine, Sep 17, 2014)

Gary Lewandowski, Everyday Stress Can Poison a Relationship (New Yorker Magazine, Oct 9, 2014)

Elloa Atkinson, I Love My Husband, But Here's Why I Want to Cheat (Huffington Post, Oct 10, 2014)

David Brooks, The Agency Moment (NY Times, Nov 13, 2014)

Debra K Fileta, The Lie About Falling in Love (Relevant Magazine, Jan 29, 2015)

Guy Winch, The 7 Habits of Truly Genuine People (Psychology Today, Mar 18, 2015)

Kevin D. Arnold, The 4 Habits of Highly Happy Couples (Psychology Today, Jul 29, 2012)

Susan J. Elliot, 10 Things You Need to Know About Real Love (Psychology Today, Apr 10, 2015)

Elizabeth Gilbert, Confessions of a Seduction Addict (NY Times, Jun 24, 2015)

Neely Steinberg, Marry the Person Who Will Help You to the Bathroom (Washington Post, Nov 5, 2015)

John Gottman, Emotionally Intelligent Husbands are Key to a Lasting Marriage (The Gottman Institute, Oct 7, 2016)

Melissa Pandika, How to Keep Your Long-Term Relationship Hot (Ozy, Dec 4, 2016) on verbal and emotional responsiveness

Julie Beck, Love in the Time of Individualism (The Atlantic, Sep 22, 2017)

Olga Khazan, Fewer Sex Partners Means a Happier Marriage (The Atlantic, Oct 22, 2018) subtitled "People who have had sex with fewer people seem to be more satisfied after they tie the knot. Is there hope for promiscuous romantics?"

 
 

Sex: Topics:

This section on Sex engages the role sex plays in human relationship. We examine Jesus’ definition of humanity, his referring to the larger biblical story, and God’s vision for relationships. Christian Reflections on Marriage focuses on the Christian definitions, and experiences, of marriage and sex. Same-Sex Attraction spotlights pastoral care for people who experience it and the debates about same-sex unions. Civil Unions for All is a biblical, constitutional, and practical defense of this policy proposal compared with a heteronormative policy. Character and Marriage highlights various perspectives on the relationship between personal character and the institution of marriage. Marriage Trends highlights varying approaches to, and experiences of, marriage, broadly. Sex Trends focuses on varying approaches to, and experiences of, sex, broadly. Sex Industry examines the moral problems with, and personal and social effects of, the commodification of sex. Desires: Jesus Leads Us to True Beauty explores human desires more broadly and deeply.